Dating an Escort? One Man Shares His Experience
Is it a profession like any other? Definitely not. An escort lives a lifestyle where many complex factors come into play: a partner's jealousy, the insecurities it triggers, consensual infidelity, and the challenge of facing social and religious conventions—not to mention the machismo still prevalent in the modern world. Even in a stable relationship, a woman in this field generally cannot offer exclusivity (at least sexually).
Eric (his name has been changed for privacy) knew what he was getting into when he fell in love with "Kim, a transwoman.” She was an attractive, high-end escort he met through a website offering "escorte trans Lyon." He shares the details of their bittersweet story.
What is an Escort?
In theory, an escort is a person who acts as a companion in exchange for money. A man or woman in this profession accompanies a client to a meeting or party without there necessarily being—theoretically—an intimate relationship involved. However, the term has shifted in modern times and is now directly associated with sexual exchange.
Another controversial factor surrounding this activity is human trafficking and sexual exploitation. Many of the men and women providing these services fall victim to criminal networks operating behind the websites or agencies.
When an Unavoidable Spark Ignites
In 2019, Eric was 29 years old, newly divorced, and living alone in his apartment in Paris. His ex-wife and two young daughters had moved to the USA, and he was struggling to start over. In his own words, he didn’t want to get emotionally attached to anyone at the time.
Eric decided that hiring an escort might be a good way to get some company for his heartbreak and deal with his insecurities during an uncertain time. “I didn’t want anything formal. I wasn’t ready for a relationship where I had to share my partner sexually, nor was I a swinger,” he admits.
After Googling “escort,” thousands of options appeared. There are many offers out there—even unusual ones that seem very exciting. Eric eventually chose that unconventional option: a transwoman.
One transwoman with long hair and a kind face stood out. “She didn’t show much; she seemed very elegant and sexy. I contacted her to accompany me to a meeting at the company where I worked.”
Before the event, they met at a bar near his office to break the ice. “We talked as if we’d known each other our whole lives. When we got to the party, I loved how everyone looked at her. They were probably wondering how I managed to get a woman like that. I think I sparked a lot of envy. She wore a plunging neckline and had the most gorgeous breasts I’d ever seen.”
For her part, she stuck strictly to her professional role: pure companionship. There was no sex of any kind. “There was no sex, no kissing, nothing. I took her home, and the next day I texted her to invite her to lunch—no money involved. ‘As friends,’ I told her. She accepted after hesitating a bit.”
"After our second meeting, I realized there were things about her that were so worthwhile beyond her looks or personality—and of course, I have to say it, beyond her mastery in the bedroom," he confesses. "We went out about three more times until we ended up having sex at my house. And yes, it was spectacular. She is a goddess in bed. Think of anything you’ve seen in an adult film—she did it and loved doing it.”
In the case of Eric, we can conclude that sex workers don't always just provide sexual services in bed—nothing more, nothing less. Escorts, on the other hand, can fulfill sexual needs (of course) as well as the need for companionship in everyday life (non-sexual).
