SEXY ROLE PLAY IDEAS FOR THE BEDROOM
Your sex life is a place where you can explore, get creative, and be playful in search of new levels of pleasure. For those who like to literally switch things up, role-playing can be an incredibly hot way to spice up your sex life.
A US survey found that up to 22% of respondents said they had participated in role-playing at some point in their lives. Of course, this is just one study. We wouldn’t be surprised if that number is actually much higher. It also doesn’t take into account people who are interested in role-playing but haven’t tried it yet.
Sound like you?
I get it, role-playing can be intimidating. But with anything new, sometimes you just need the right guidance to help you get started.
Role-playing with a partner can be a great way to focus on your sexual desires and fantasies. Role-playing gives you the opportunity to be whoever you want to be - it's liberating for both partners (or more). You might feel a little silly. But if that's the worst that can happen, then there's certainly no reason not to try!
Choose your persona
Most role-playing fantasies tend to fit into a general theme, it's probably something you enjoy in your normal life or something that makes you feel powerful or excited.
If you're a Game of Thrones fan or just love all things fantasy, then you might want to explore dressing up as a sexy fairy or using crazy magic in your dirty talk.
Sports fan? Bring that fantasy league to life by breaking out the sports gear and getting creative with whatever props and sports are involved.
Role-playing can also mean pretending to be a completely different person. This could mean wearing a wig, making up a backstory, and pretending to meet your partner at a bar with your sexy characters.
The most popular sensual role-playing scenarios include: Doctor/Patient, Birther/Stay-at-home Husband, Master of the House/French Lady, Teacher/Student – These are all dynamics we encounter in our lives (unless you have a French maid, first of all), so they’re a great place to start.
Communicate with Your Partner
If role-playing is new to you and your partner, it can be a little unsettling at first. Especially if you haven’t told your partner yet that you want to try it. Sex is all about communication, especially when you’re trying something new.
Your partner will probably be very interested, maybe they’ve wanted to try role-playing but just haven’t had the courage to tell you yet. More people than not are usually receptive to this type of vibe, especially if you’re already pretty sexually compatible. This can be a sexy conversation in itself!
Here are some ways to break the ice:
* “I’ve been fantasizing about pretending to be a ____ and I’d love to try it with you.”
* “I’ve been picturing you in a ____ costume and you look so sexy.”
* “I’m really into the energy of ____ and I’d love to play it sometime.”
If you’re not sure if your partner is into role-playing, consider putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and showing your partner how it can change the dynamics of your romantic relationship. Be whoever you like—as long as it’s someone else; a sexy stripper or a naughty neighbor and see where your performance takes you.
The element of surprise can be super sexy. Just make sure it doesn't cross any lines of consent if you try it without them knowing ahead of time!
Get your gear
Luckily, we all have the most important ingredient for sexy role-playing, which is a healthy imagination. Costumes and props can add to the experience, but they're not completely necessary - as with many things, it's the story that counts. Sometimes with sexy scenarios, the simpler the better.
A great way to ease into role-playing is to head to a costume/sex store with your partner to get some inspiration for what turns you both on in the realm of role-playing. But you can also make do with whatever you have at home, like office supplies for a school/work fantasy and old boxes you have lying around for those who are interested in the delivery driver!
The overly eager massage therapist is a super hot dynamic and one that you can easily get started with. This full-body massage candle is made with natural oils, shea butter, and other nourishing ingredients. Not only is the oil in this candle the most hydrating moisturizer, but it’s chemical-free and wax-free. Perfect for giving a sexy “full-body” rub! It’s also a great way to explore temperature and wax play!
Set Boundaries
Since role-playing is a type of self-doubt, it’s important to set boundaries so that everyone feels safe and comfortable with the experience. This means having a conversation where you discuss boundaries, safe words, and practice aftercare.
Respect, consent, and communication are key, even if (especially if) the fantasies you’re playing out might be a little more hardcore or in the BDSM realm.
If your partner wants to try role-playing but you’re not that into it (or you’re not sure if you’re into it), discuss whether there’s a type of role-playing that feels more accessible to you that can help you push your comfort zone a little bit — without completely stepping out of it. You might be surprised!
Have fun with it!
Role-playing, like sex in general, can be silly and awkward at times. It’s part of being human and trying something new. That’s why having a sense of humor is essential when exploring role-playing. Meeting any awkwardness without judgment and being able to laugh it off is not only key to more enjoyable and passionate sex, but also to a strong relationship.
Still scratching your head when it comes to other ways to add a little pizzazz to your sex life? Try wearing this remote-controlled bullet vibe for a mid-evening outing, and let your partner know the secret - they'll be able to indulge in that role-playing fantasy right away.
